I believe that today represented Day #1 of retraining myself of what it means to “serve my wife”. My wife has been recently put on “modified bed rest” at 29 weeks for her pregnancy with our twins . While this week was extremely stressful for me (I’m thankful no one was trying to take my blood pressure), I have felt God’s surpassing peace in a real way. I have also come to a few very real conclusions:
1) My wife is a “super-mom” and “super-wife” (I knew this before now – just reiterated). In other words, she makes things pretty easy for me. While I work outside of the home, she works in the home preparing meals, doing laundry, keeping the house clean, taking care of the kids, paying bills, running errands, etc. This enables us to have great family time every evening without worrying about taking care of the daily tasks that she is able to tackle. Now that her “super-mom” and “super-wife” role looks different (i.e. bed rest caring for our newborn babies)…
2) I need to “fill” those shoes (as an act of love – Ephesians 5:25)
2) “I” cannot “fill” those shoes (not enough hours in the day). However, I am confidently claiming the word of God as authority on this situation, “I can do all things through Him, who strengthens me” (Phil. 4:13). The house may not be as clean and spotless, or the bills always paid on time, but I know that God will sustain us during this time.
4) I need the Lord to continue to teach me what it means to be a servant. I am thankful for God’s great shepherding in bringing about this area of sanctification in my life. I know that I need to serve more joyfully and the Lord has given me many opportunities, starting with the wife that I married 46 months ago and our two kids!
5) I am thankful for the body of Christ. Our families, Lighthouse group, and church family has been awesome and encouraging. Thanks!
My wife, children, and I celebrated Christmas as a family prior to heading out of town for the “family Christmas” festivities in Eastern Iowa. Here is a picture of our little drummer boy with his new toy (he’ll be three in March).
Not to be outdone…our little sweet girl catches her brother away from his prized present.
I love the holiday of Thanksgiving! Lots of family, food, and football. I am hoping and praying that I will take opportunity this Thanksgiving to truly be thankful for the greatest gift of all: my faith and salvation through Jesus Christ. God has so richly blessed my family, my wife and I just want to be an example of thankful hearts of gratidude toward God in how we interact with our family members today. May God bless you all and remind you to be thankful and receive the greatest gift offered to man / woman! Blessings!
I am usually not a person who is at a loss for words, but the last few days have left me speechless. At an ultrasound yesterday, my wife and I found out that we are expecting twins (A Double Blessing). I would say that I am still processing everything that entails, but am extremely escatic knowing that God has blessed my wife and I greatly. I believe the Bible to be the Word of God, and that God’s Word is true and relevant today. Therefore, I must make a decision.
Despite what the world may say about expecting twins (with two young children already), I have chosen to believe God’s word in Psalm 127:3-5 that says “Behold, children are a gift of the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them; they will not be ashamed when they speak with their enemies in the gate.” Henceforth, if children are a blessing (some translations translate gift as blessing or heritage), then I also must chose to believe God’s Word in Proverbs 10:22- “It is the blessing of the Lord that makes rich, and He adds no sorrow to it.”
Yes, raising children is hard work. Yes, raising twins will be extremely hard work. But I must not view this blessing of the Lord with a human, temporal perspective. I choose to believe God as His very word, especially these very personal, scriptural promises, and because of that choice I can now live my life with an eternal outlook on this situation. I can humbly and confidently accept the blessing of the Lord because it is truly a gift from Him!
The past two Saturday nights I have gone with my wife to watch the movie Fireproof. The first time it was just the two of us, the second time it was with members from our Lighthouse at First Family Church. I have thoroughly enjoyed the movie in both instances. There are many things that I have taken from the movie, but one thing in particular has stood out to me…
The scene is when Michael tells Caleb (Kirk Cameron), “you have to beg God to make you a godly husband”. I immediately felt the conviction of the holy spirit fall upon me. I realized that often I want to and pray to have a good marriage, but I lack the prayer of intense faith, that begs God to make me a godly husband.
So…I’m left pleading with God…begging God…to make me a godly husband. I know what that prayer means…it means allowing God to search my heart and root out all sin, and crucifying my flesh, in order to walk daily in the Spirit.
God…make me a godly husband…
It was September 26, 2004. My fiance (now wife), Angela and I were starting our pre-marital counseling workbook together (Preparing for Marriage God’s Way). The lesson was “Knowing You and You”. What a fun time in our lives, preparing our hearts and minds to enter God’s covenant of marriage. We were learning about each other and growing in the Lord together. At the time, I penned these thoughts regarding our marriage.
List ten reasons why you want to marry your partner:
1. She’s the one God has for me to marry
2. She’s a beautiful, godly woman
3. She wants to serve Christ
4. She wants to serve me
5. She’s compassionate, loving, and caring
6. She loves the Lord and Truth
7. We are committed to each other
8. We both want to have a family
9. We want to share the gift of marriage (and covenant)
10. I love her and want to love her as Christ loved the church
Just over four years removed from writing that list, I enjoy looking back at how God has worked and molded these “reasons” for marriage into “realities”. We by no means have a perfect marriage, but we both love and serve a perfect God, who gives us His spirit so that we may fulfill his desires for us and our marriage
Does anyone else have any good lists about their spouse to share?!
June 4, 2005 was a great day in my life. The joy and love experienced that day are almost inexpressible. That day I married my best friend and love of my life. Today, it’s hard to imagine not being married. Being married has consumed my life, it effects every single aspect of my life. I’ve learned a lot in the almost 3 years of marriage that we have had.
1) Marriage doesn’t allow room for selfishness
2) Marriage requires a lot of work
My wife and I were not naive of the commitment we were making or have any false impressions that married life would be a breeze. But marriage requires something that’s not natural as humans, sacrificing for others. It’s like there is a tradeoff…the more we are willing to sacrifice for one another, the greater the reward in marriage. I just pray that I will be a more sacrificial husband, and model the love that Jesus Christ shows for his church to my wife.
As far requiring a lot of work, it’s easy to let the cares of this world and the day to day things of life (kids, work, church) take hold of your time. When I say that marraige requires a lot of work, I mean that it requires a lot work to set aside the time necessary to have a healthy thriving marriage. Work also requires getting “dirty” sometimes, some discipline, being willing to do things that you may not necessarily life for the benefit of the marriage (similar to corporate work). Lord, give me a heart that desires to “work” at my marriage!
I love you Angela!